I was watching When Harry Met Sally and it of course when the famous restaurant scene came on I was in stitches. I’d been talking to my girlfriends recently about orgasms and how sometimes we, well let’s say, embellish in order to stroke our man’s egos! In the scene (embedded below) Sally shows Harry just how easy it is for a lady to put on a Oscar worthy fake orgasm, much to the bemusement of fellow diners.
You may want to plug in the headphones before you press play otherwise you may get some odd looks . .
I think it’s fair to say the majority of women can confess (though maybe only to other women) to faking orgasms in order to speed things along, stroke their partner’s ego or simply make their partner feel good. It’s not to say we were not enjoying sex, just that for whatever reason, it just isn’t as earth shattering as our partner would like it to be.
I have a friend who argues she’d never fake an orgasm as it gives the man the wrong impression. If they are not hitting the spot, but we let them believe they are, they’ll keep on missing the spot. She prefers to politely tell them that it didn’t do it for her and explain what would. I think that’s healthy and probably a much better idea, especially if you’re hoping on along term relationship with him. Imagine five years down the line, still having to ‘fake it’ because your guy is so sure he’s rocking your world and you’re being too ‘nice’ to admit he isn’t? Not exactly conducive for a healthy sexual relationship is it?
Maybe you weren’t really in the mood for it, maybe your mind is elsewhere, whatever the reason, have you faked it? If not, why not? Would you let your partner know (maybe not a good idea right after the act) that you’ve faked it with him or with past partners!?